Crystal Prescriptions: The A-Z Guide to Over 1,200 Symptoms and Their Healing Crystals - Judy Hall 2006

Releasing the family scapegoat
Ancestral Healing

One person acting out a pattern or carrying the family burden saves the rest of the family from taking responsibility for their own behaviour and feelings. Family scapegoats tend to do all they can to placate their family and are forever trying to please and win approbation — or cut off all contact. They tend to act as victims or martyrs and are helped by the stones or gem essences for releasing those conditions (see page 321). But, when scapegoats take control of their own life, it causes enormous resistance from the family whose nice cosy illusion of ’I’m OK, it’s not me that’s the problem’ is shattered.

Although it is an opportunity for the whole family to change, the scapegoat is often shunned when they begin to take control of their own life, pressurised to ’return to normal’, or someone else in the family takes on the role. Ideally all the family would be involved in healing a scapegoating pattern but may refuse due to resistance to change. However, it is possible to ’reprogram’ the family from afar by distance healing with a crystal. Some people might feel that this interferes in the family free will. But, did anyone ask the scapegoat if they wanted that role? The reply is usually that it was thrust upon them and may well be a karmic carry-over. Assisting the scapegoat facilitates a change they or the family may not be capable of bringing about for themselves and gives the whole family an opportunity to move on.

You will need:

Family photograph

Rose Quartz or Selenite

Scapolite or other scapegoating crystal

Most potent time: Full moon

Ritual: Healing the family scapegoat

✵ Place a photograph of the whole family in a place where it will not be disturbed and preferably where the light from the full moon will fall on it. Surround it with Rose Quartz or Celtic Quartz (white for the matrilineal line, Golden for the patriarchal) crystals.

✵ Over the family scapegoat, place a scapegoat healer stone such as Scapolite.

✵ Now visualise pink light surrounding that person, or yourself. If you are the scapegoat, say out loud: “I am not responsible for the problems and feelings of my family. The family situation is not my creation. I am responsible only for myself.” If you are not the scapegoat, use: “We/you are not responsible.”

✵ Repeat night and morning for a week.

✵ If jealousy or other toxic emotions are involved, drop appropriate gem essences on to the crystal (see pages 123—127).