The Bingo Theory: A revolutionary guide to love, life, and relationships - Mimi Ikonn (2016)
Part I. Evaluating Your Masculine and Feminine Energy
Chapter 3. OWN YOUR STRENGTHS
BEFORE WE MOVE ON to the next section, I'd like you to take a moment to really embrace your strength energy.
Is it masculine or feminine?
How do you feel about it?
The Feminine Energy Is Not Weak
As a modern, successful, career-driven woman, you might not like being associated with feminine energy - you might think that it’s somehow sexist or patronizing. You might associate the word feminine with weakness.
You might read this and think, “But I’m strong and ambitious!” And that’s great! This is the masculine energy in you coming forward. But what comes most naturally to you? What are you like when you are not at work? Are you more logical or more emotional? Do you draw first on your caring, loving side? Or do you draw first on your clear-thinking decisive side?
If you’re a guy, you might want to run away from the word feminine. You might think it implies you’re girlie, or less of a man.
We live in a time that celebrates the masculine go-getting energy above all else.
Masculine Energy Does Not Make You a Macho Idiot
On the flipside, some men might think that it’s no longer socially acceptable to own their masculine energy. They might think that it makes them like their aggressive, domineering fathers, and that these days all men need to show their sensitive side. That’s absolutely right!
It takes a real man to be emotional and caring and to not care how others perceive this side of them.
Being a Masculine Strength Male or Female does not mean that you are destined to be aggressive, controlling or cut off from your feelings. You can still be open, kind and loving.
You can use your feminine energy without walking away from your natural strength—which is your clear thinking, your ambition, and your desire to make your mark on the world.
We must always remember we have BOTH energies within us. It’s just that one of the energies has become more developed in us through a combination of hormones, life-experiences and conditioning.
Own Your Super Power
The trick is to OWN your natural strength, not fight it. That’s when the magic happens, that’s when you tap into your super powers.
If you have a dominant feminine energy, own it regardless of whether you are male or female. Tell yourself, “It’s my strength to be a caring, compassionate, loving and connected person.”
Likewise, if you have a strong masculine energy—regardless of whether you are male or female—own the fact that “It’s my strength to be an ambitious go-getter who clearly focuses on what I want and how to get it.”
It’s not that you can’t do other things - it’s just that these things come more easily to you.
Once you know what comes to you naturally, you don’t have to work on that any more. Instead, work on building up your less-dominant energy.
As mentioned previously, it is important to understand that we all have both masculine and feminine energy in us. It’s just that most of us have one energy that is more developed - whether through nature or conditioning - and this often leads to an imbalance.
The purpose of this book is to balance your masculine and feminine energies so that you can enjoy a happy, healthy and balanced life.