INTRODUCTION - The Bingo Theory - Mimi Ikonn

The Bingo Theory: A revolutionary guide to love, life, and relationships - Mimi Ikonn (2016)


ARE YOU THE KIND of person who finds it hard to sit still and relax? Do you feel lazy and guilty if you’re not working through a to-do list? Do you pride yourself on this? Are you secretly a control freak who likes everything to go your way—yet you often feel stressed, anxious and restless?

Or perhaps your issues are just the opposite. Is inaction your problem? Do you struggle to get your life sorted out? Do you find it hard to stand up for yourself and know what to do next? Are your finances a mess? Do you constantly doubt yourself?

I believe that most people in the world fall into one of those two camps. They either can’t stop or they can’t get going. They’re either controlling or chaotic.

Knowing which camp you fall into, will reveal a lot about your strengths and your weaknesses in your relationships. And, let’s face it, you didn’t pick up this book because everything is going perfect in your life, did you?

So which of these two camps are you in?


Every single human on this planet has two energies living within them: the masculine and the feminine.

The masculine energy helps us to operate in the outer world; it makes us strong, independent, and confident.

The feminine energy, on the other hand, helps us love and connect to others. It’s what makes us creative and intuitive.

However, for most of us, one of these energies will be stronger in us—and this has a huge effect on how we approach the world.

If you have more of the masculine energy, you will be the kind of person who finds it hard to stop. You’re probably ambitious, hard-working and logical, but you can also be a bit of a judgmental control freak.

On the other hand, if you have a lot of feminine energy, you are caring and fun but you find it hard to get your act together. And you can be a push over. You struggle to make decisions and get things done.

All of this has nothing to do with your biological sex. You can be a man with a lot of feminine energy and you can be a woman with a lot of masculine energy.

This is just energy. Yin and yang.

This book is about how to balance the masculine and feminine energies within you so that you can live life to the fullest.

I call this a Bingo.

Why Bingo?

Well, we’ve all played the game and some of us have had the joy of being able to shout out “Bingo!” when we’ve had that winning combination.

That’s what this is about—having the winning combination of masculine and feminine energy.

This combination makes you a winner in life. It makes you the fullest version of yourself. You can then look at yourself in the mirror and feel at peace with what you see, because you have a much deeper understanding and acceptance of who you are.

It also makes you a winner in love.

Think about it. Romantically, women will say they want a man who is strong and ambitious, yet kind and sensitive. Men want a woman who is sexy and playful, yet down to earth and intelligent. What they’re describing is a Bingo!

Don’t you want to be someone’s Bingo? Do you want to find someone who makes you so excited you want to yell “Bingo!” when they walk in the room? This isn’t just about bedding someone. It’s about really being with someone—the right someone—by using the principles of masculine and feminine energies.

In this book you will:

✵Discover the groundbreaking medical research that has proven that, biologically, we are all a blend of masculine and feminine strengths.

✵Take a quiz that helps you to determine if your strength energy is masculine or feminine. This alone is a huge eye opener. It will allow you to see clearly what amazing strengths you posses and will also highlight the areas you need to work on.

✵Learn simple, actionable tips to help you balance your energies.

✵Learn how to attract a Bingo relationship if you are single.

✵Learn how to transform your existing relationships (whether romantic or otherwise) using the principles of masculine and feminine energies.

How to read this book

Throughout this book I will refer to four different types of people:

✵Feminine Strength Female

✵Feminine Strength Male

✵Masculine Strength Female

✵Masculine Strength Male

When I say “strength”, I mean that this is your dominant energy. I refer to it as your strength because that is what it is—when used wisely.

I strongly suggest reading this book from cover to cover, including the sections that do not describe your own type. We are all a mixture of masculine and feminine energy. When you learn about other types it will give you insights into your family and friends and make it easier to relate to other types.

I use heterosexual relationships in this book but the same dynamics of masculine and feminine energy apply to all kinds of relationships—whether they are gay, trans, friendship or even family relationships.

This is just the start.

We live in changing times and we are in a state of flux when it comes to gender roles. Much has changed since the women’s liberation movement took hold, and yet so many damaging stereotypes still exist: girls are still under great pressure to look a certain way and boys are told they must be strong and not show their feelings.

I believe that life becomes much simpler when we accept that we are all a blend of masculine and feminine energies. Men are not from Mars and women are not from Venus. We are all from Planet Earth. The sooner we realize that, the greater freedom, power and love we will experience—not just for ourselves, but for the world.

So let’s get going…